Dating German women

  • Is it normal that women in Germany get upset if a (foreign) male pays for dinner, movies and stuff like that? This has happened to me a couple of time, one girl even tried to explain me that she doesn't go for that "macho-attitude". Any advice? If they want to pay for their bills - fine with me - but it just seems so weird

    05 Aug 2005, 03:44 Anonymous
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  • Hahaha!!!

    Believe me - you're not the only one to ask that question. It seems like German women are obsessed with their independence - no wonder many German men prefer to go for foreigner ;o)

    Anonymous 05 Aug 2005, 03:48 - Report
  • Dating German women

    Compared to New Zealand woman.. German girls are very traditional in this way I have found. They still expect these things I think.. but will want your respect as an independent woman first..

    Anonymous 06 Aug 2005, 03:24 - Report
  • Worse in New Zealand

    Don't tell me that women in New Zealand are even more obsessed than over here!!! I mean, what's wrong with inviting a girl for a dinner?? She can invite you the next time if she wants to, but no - she has to pay HER bill. Which pretty much fits that German obsession of separating bills everywhere - maybe it's not even a male-female thing, but a general lack of ability to just share and invite other people for something!!!!

    Anonymous 07 Aug 2005, 01:56 - Report
  • Anonymous

    Hi guys,
    may I can bring some light in from a German women point of view. Spoken from my experience, once we got invited by a German ? guy, he often expects more thn we are willing to offer on the first evening. Sadly I have got so many friends who made this experience. Seems a lot of them think "I paid for the dinner, so I paid for her too" I personally like to get invited and been treated ladylike but unfortunately I always got in my mind that something unexpected may turn up.
    I think seperating bills gives a lot of girls the idea of not owe someone something. Bizarre society...

    Anonymous 25 Aug 2005, 11:20 - Report
  • Women are the same everywhere ..

    .. and if these German ones wanna pay for themselves, what do you worry about? Leaves you some cash for your other interest ;o)

    Anonymous 31 Aug 2005, 09:32 - Report
  • I am not sure it's just a money thing

    From my experience, some German women are just a little bit weird with foreigners a) because they are with a foreigner and b) because they find it hard to break out of very German ways of behaviour which seem strange to foreigners.

    First advice is be careful with German girls who have not spent some time out of Germany - they seen to be more closed. Second advice is to keep on talking to them - if soemthing seems weird, talk about or make it a joke (be careful). If you manage to get to a situation of intimacy, a lot of the difficulties dissapear. If the come back, just chat!!!

    Anonymous 06 Sep 2005, 10:56 - Report
  • It's easy to have sex with German women

    There are few good things I can say about living in Germany, however I was suprised as how easy it is to have sex with German women. Basically, you don't have to do anything, they will try to seduce you themselves for a couple of nights... If you don't wish to have sex, you'll spend a lot of time refusing... On the other hand, most German women are so ugly, it's difficult to get excited about them.

    Zdziwiony 04 Jan 2008, 06:17 - Report
  • lol

    i'm a girl from berlin and i think it's hillarious how you guys analyse us happy! we have so many different kinds of girls here, i don't think that you will ever find a pattern or some kind of law that you can use on every german girl. in my opinion it's quite a good thing, if the male offers to pay the bill, but i still think, that he should accept a "no" without questioning too much. if i don't like a guy and he wants to pay for me, i don't want him to do so, because i don't want to give him the feeling of a chance to get with me. anyway, if i like a guy i usually don't want him to pay everything (of course i wouldn't get upset if he does *g*!), just because it would be unfair for men to spend all their money on women, since nowadays women are pretty independent and can work for their own money happy...

    anonymous chick from berlin 17 Jan 2008, 10:15 - Report
  • german women

    hi there,

    I've never been to germany and met only few german women. I've taken an interest because yesterday at a night club in london I met a gorgeous german woman in her early thirties who was independent, strong and beautiful. She seemed so friendly and we had an amazing, magical evening. I don't speak german and she doesn't speak english very well, but we were communicating with each other through dance, eye contact, hugs and kisses. big-smile. I'm personally fine with going "dutch" in paying bills, but apart from that, are there any universally loved traits that german woman like in foreign men? What kind of adventurous physical activities do they enjoy?eg snowboarding, bunjee jumping, zipper cable riding. What kind of mentally/aesthetically stimulating activities do they enjoy? eg spirituality, art, philosophy, yoga... I like these kind of things and i was wondering( rather hoping blunk ) that german women ( whom i know very little about ) also like them.

    Im welcome to any suggestions so plz reply !

    wonderboy 18 May 2008, 09:18 - Report
  • LOL as well

    I fully agree with "anonymous chick from Berlin" - if the woman wants to go Dutch on the first date and you don't hear from her afterwards, it means that she's not into you, and she did not want to raise any hopes.
    If she is paying her part of the bill, but agrees on further dates, you can assume that she likes you, but either is shy/has been hurt before or does not want to put the entire financial weight on your shoulders.
    At least this would be my interpretation from my perspective.
    Also, in my opinion it depends on your nationality and behaviour. If I know that in your culture it goes without saying that the man should pay, or if I can deduct from your behaviour that you have been educated this way, I will accept you paying. Nevertheless, I always hope that you still regard me as an independent woman!

    dortmund4ever 03 Jun 2008, 04:10 - Report
  • what about mixed german girls

    okay im mixed with black and german does it make it worst or just crazy because i have traits on both black and german

    im the tomboi of the group belive it 13 Jun 2008, 07:25 - Report


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    BRADY 13 Jun 2008, 09:15 - Report
  • Dating German Women

    Off course German women are independant. In my experience I have found them to be more attuned to life than most of their European counterparts.
    I would date a German Girl every time.

    Craftsman 42 19 Jun 2008, 09:40 - Report
  • Dating German women

    i m german and i understand her. why does the man have to pay? hello, men and women are equal. we just dont use men. happy
    dont worry...

    berlina 27 Jun 2008, 06:35 - Report
  • german women

    I'm from Milan and my girlfriend is from Hamburg. I had the same problem 5 years ago in the beginning. In my opinion there are 2 issues. first in Germany is lost in the relations between male and woman what in Italy we call "galateo", (etiquette) rules for ladies and gentlemen: this is a result of the war of feminism, that here was particullary strong. Second the german women like to have all under control. Also a simple bill can disturbe this. It's a side of their indipendence, that for a lot of other stuff it'great!

    gillo 28 Jun 2008, 01:07 - Report
  • ..

    that´s not right.. German Woman are not obsessed with their independence.. it is just appearance.. they like to make this image, but it is not true.. you can see here in Germany that most of the people would like the conservativ life .. even when they said that they want to be independent,.. they prefer the typish roll.. Mutter und to be "Hausfrau" ..just less than 30% keep an independent Life..

    .. 30 Jun 2008, 07:48 - Report
  • German girls

    I love german girls... they are the best in the world. I believe having the foreign touch and perhaps knowing english or speaking german with an english accent will surely get you far with them.

    If you love blonde girls, Germany is the best place to go to.

    TruthTeller 01 Jul 2008, 11:41 - Report
  • Hello From California

    My German sweetheart from Frankenthal is coming to visit me in August! I am s excited, we want to live together forever really happy))

    Mike 04 Jul 2008, 09:09 - Report
  • hell yes

    yeah i love blondes. f*** the brunettes and black-haired ones cuz they´re like men. out.

    rhino 14 Jul 2008, 12:32 - Report
  • if you like mindgames date german chicks

    if you like mindgames date german chicks.
    but in the end blame yourself, plz.

    danmass 29 Jul 2008, 05:34 - Report
  • Dating German women

    Mindgames? I've never met a German woman that plays mindgames. I think most German women are just cautious when with a man,whether he's German or otherwise. I married a German girl from Dresden. She has never played mindgames with me nor intends to. I say,if the lady in question wants to pay for something,she's being kind or just saying in her own way. "Don't waste all your money on me." It was weird the first time we met when she offered to pay her end of the dinner bill but I grew to admire that. The fact she wanted show that there was a bit of pride in her independence. If you want mindgames..try a few American girls but in the end regardless of Nationality,both men and women can play mindgames.

    Ryan 11 Aug 2008, 06:26 - Report
  • well..

    Honestly i prefer asian girls or latinas,they are more feminine..and i am german guy

    Carsten 12 Aug 2008, 05:58 - Report
  • where's the problem?

    well, you can pay my bills anytime, if you want to! lol blunk

    german mädel 13 Aug 2008, 03:40 - Report
  • to german mädel

    .. actually most of the german women want to get into the "traditional" roll and they prefer to be the "housewife" .. and as they receive the called "Kindergeld" they do not want to be in the profesional way.. i think they are just envy about another cultur that could be femenin and at the same time independent

    x 13 Aug 2008, 04:06 - Report
  • It seems interesting

    Well, I am from India. Yes, i agree with the idea they have. All are equal in this world. So, no problem with bills..Keep smiling..

    Kumar 16 Aug 2008, 11:28 - Report
  • hhh yes

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    BEDDA MOHAMED 19 Aug 2008, 12:04 - Report
  • men expect something for taking you to dinner

    men all over the world think that if they pay for your dinner then you should not resist their advances (even if you do not like them or would prefer to get to know them better first) and you are more likely to have to "fight them off" or get into an awkward situation because they have "given you money by paying for your food" - so then you give back, what? the pleasure of your conversation? riiiight. it's the obvious - what all of them want). paying for our own dinner prevents them from "imposing" their own expectations on us and allows us to make our own decisions about who we sleep with independent of efforts to "skew the balance" by paying for something

    regular gal 05 Oct 2008, 01:34 - Report
  • Im the one paying

    Im dating an older german woman. She offered to pay her bills once an I said no. Now Im paying all the bills. What did I do wrong or right

    Dee 06 Oct 2008, 05:41 - Report
  • albatros

    They love turkish,italians and especially kosovo Albanians.I never been to germany but i wanna go.i am an Albanian and Italian olive skin male,where are the best places to go,somebody can tell me,i love blondes and i am a damn straight sex addict

    Leonardo 08 Dec 2008, 01:57 - Report
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    peace 15 Dec 2008, 12:28 - Report


    darlington 29 Dec 2008, 03:15 - Report
  • It can always be different

    I don't agree with Zdziwiony, yes compared to the women in the states German girls may seem easier to have sex with but, from what I have experienced (Been living in Germany for 6 months now) its another cultural difference. As far as paying for meals and dates. I have met both types of women. One girl I dated started out paying for her own stuff on dates but after I insisted she stopped even offering. However another girl I dated prefered more of a taking turns kind of paying. The one thing I have noticed is that German women tend to be friendlier than American women by far. Even if they aren't interested in you they will let you know but that doesn't mean they won't talk to you or even dance.

    American in Germany 04 Jan 2009, 02:40 - Report
  • very true

    im replying to someone who said german women are obsessed with their independence.. that is so true... haha im german and i totally dont care about tradition and i think things should be equal in relationships.. we just dont like seeming like high maintenance bitches..

    shauna 10 Jan 2009, 07:38 - Report

    I am latifah from Saudi Arabia I want to make friends with a german girl.I like to have contact with other cultures.I know nothing about German culture and german people and don't know how do they even look like!!
    my email is:

    latifah 12 Jan 2009, 10:23 - Report
  • when in vacation

    Hi Im from Mexico and a girl From Germany its coming to California and then shes coming to Tijuana Mexico for the Weekend, Any suggestions about where to take her (cultural sites, bars, night clubs) and more important what not to do or comment

    Shamelessmike 13 Jan 2009, 10:45 - Report
  • hi shauna..

    i m so sorry to correct what you´d wortten.. but many many German women like to be maintenance .. thats about independence is just a mythos .. in each other culture you could find (leider) the same situation.. just the women do not want to accept it...

    the one 16 Jan 2009, 07:39 - Report
  • hmm

    wished i found this forum...she didn't explain anything but i did get a cold vibe from her...but i couldn't help it, its built in, part of my culture.

    some guy 25 Jan 2009, 09:22 - Report
  • kami

    erman are very nice peoples.

    2 10 Feb 2009, 12:09 - Report
  • Welcome

    Hi. Am James from Kenya and living on the slopes of Mt Kenya. The only snow covered mountain along the equator.How i love to have a mature German lady visiting Kenya to contact me for a visit in these regions.
    I love to make friendship with mature ladies and trust you will love the experience in Kenya and the wildlife as well.
    you can get me on the email

    James Gatere 11 Feb 2009, 03:27 - Report

    Hi Beautiful German women,
    I am a young man and very currious from Africa.
    I need any German woman for marraige.
    The year doen't matter provided you love me and will like to be my woman for life.
    we shall live in any continent that she want us to live. I am very serious about that please.
    You can call or text me a message on my cell phone numbers bellow.
    Hope to meet you soon.
    See yaa!

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    BOBSON 12 Feb 2009, 03:34 - Report
  • im african.i speak emnglish. want to study in germany. need a german speaking nice lady to have fun.

    im african.i speak emnglish. want to study in germany. need a german speaking nice lady to have fun. we learn from each others culture and explore. email me if interested. you will like me.

    TIMMY 20 Feb 2009, 12:25 - Report
  • Hi Craftsman 42

    Thank you for supporting us German women. Reading through the other comments I feel that I have to be a bitch, paying my own bills and can only be married for a visa. Thanks a lot. We are exactly the same as anywhere. We want to be respected, treated nicely and in the end hope to find a man who will love us and care for us. Show me one man who doesn't want love and caring as well.

    munichmouse 22 Feb 2009, 11:16 - Report
  • machoman

    Don't overdo it. We are sick and tired of what we call Turkish Male behaviour. Just invite her for a cup of coffee and/or surprise her with a ticket you have already paid for.

    munichmouse 22 Feb 2009, 11:18 - Report
  • for marrage

    I want to be a german Hasband

    Mir Mohammad Moshin 02 Mar 2009, 08:11 - Report
  • From Africa

    Am a very decent kenyan man with a good Jobworking in Nairobi, I would like to meet a german woman for fun and who knows? come we do some safari´s together in my home country: .

    Ngure 09 Mar 2009, 12:25 - Report
  • am here looking for german woman

    am from NIGERIA am lookig for woman in german any woman that have interest in me pls mail me

    ss 11 Mar 2009, 03:29 - Report
  • Dating German women

    Any other African, Asian or Latinamerican men who want to date German women???

    They might think, you are coolly calculating, slippery and ruthless. blunk

    Of course, you are not, so please, don't make a fool of yourself!!!

    Uli 11 Mar 2009, 04:41 - Report
  • i need a lover

    can you

    shadrack 24 Mar 2009, 02:04 - Report


    DREAMER 24 Mar 2009, 10:16 - Report
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