approach

I am a Hungarian guy and I'm not sure if it is true but I've read something interesting.
If someone from a western culture tries to be friendly he or she asks many questions. That is the part I'm not sure of.
On the other hand Hungarians trying to be fiendly, tell a story about themselves and when its finished wait for the other to do the same and so on.
Answering even the third personal like question in a row makes us unconfortable.
wanna make friends? Tell stories about yourself or your family. Does not have to be funny or entertaining, it is not for the laughs.
At first we do not know anything about you and we most certainly will not ask the questions to get to know you. We are not raised that way.
To make friend you have to share something and see if the other reacts.
Then again talking about yourself all the time is also considered to be unfriendly.
It is a lenghty process. Give it time.

About older people.

Thirty or so years ago a friend meant an entirely different thing. You could share your thoughts with your friend and if he was not, he just reported you. Your kids could not get to college, you could not get a decent job and so on.

They will not open easily.

Maybe what i wrote is trivial maybe not.

Thanks. And if you come to visit us. Welcome to Hungary.

Adorján 12 Jul 2009, 06:26 - Report